08/28/21 BIBLICAL ORDER

08/28/21 BIBLICAL ORDER

The Biblical order of a godly family.
Husbands obedient to God.
Wives obedient to husbands.
Children obedient to parents.

God has a prescribed order for human relationships and it begins wing family order.
Of course everyone needs to be obedient to God.

HUSBAND AND FATHER
When a man, a husband is obedient to God, he will love his wife, as Christ loved the Church and will be kind, considerate, merciful, gracious to his wife and children. He will also be the channel through which he communicates God's will to the family.

Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Ephesians 6:4
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

If a man, husband, father gives leadership that is contrary to the Biblically revealed with of God, then it is not binding upon anyone to obey follow that directive.

No one has the authority to require lying, stealing, cheating, physical violence, whether is a husband, father, employer, the government. We are all expected to obey God rather than men when the rule of man conflicts with the revealed rule of God.

The Christian husband, the Christian father must be humble, compassionate, wise, tenderhearted, conciliatory, condescending and understanding.
He does not have the authority to cancel out God's rule, but he must show the love of God to his wife and children.
He must not lord it over his wife and he cannot physically force her to submit.
The relationship and order of authority is based on love and truth.

The husband and father should not treat the wife and children crudely or indignantly. While the husband, father is the head of the household, he is also to exemplify the Headship and Authority of Christ.

There is no promise that a loving, kind, wise husband or father will have a wife or children who respond to that treatment in a positive way.
REMEMBER, GOD TREATED ADAM AND EVE PERFECTLY, AND THEY REJECTED GOD.

WIFE AND MOTHER
Wives, mothers should also live in the power and grace of God's leading
A wife should be subject to her husband, but should not compromise her faithfulness to God.
God is the source of order and He is not the creator of chaos.
Families need to have order and God designed the family order.

As the Bible says a man ought to love his wife as Christ loved the Church, so too, the Bible says that a woman ought to obey her husband as the Church obeys Christ.

Peter also addressed this principle:
1 Peter 3:6-7
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Nothing more and nothing less is meant, when the wife is referred to as the weaker vessel, than the fact of natural endowments. This does not lessen her capacity for God or morality or intellect. However, God designed us with limitations and strengths and this is true concerning the differences between male and female. The differences do not make one gender better or more noble than the other. The wife does not lose her responsibility to obey and follow God.on essential, moral, Biblical revelation.

The wife is a help meet to Adam. They are partners. The wife is not the slave of the husband. In fact, she has the authority, with him, over the children.

CHILDREN AND PARENTS
The Bible shows us the place of children in the family.

Exodus 20:12
12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Matthew 15:4
4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Ephesians 6:1-2
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

The order of human family relationships are demonstrated in Divine relationships. God is a loving, tender but ruling Father to His children. Jesus is a loving, tender but ruling husband to the Church..
Paul sums up the family order again.

Colossians 3:17-21
17 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
God's plan is perfect; human example is flawed. Don't blame God for Human failure.